Divorce is never easy. However, divorce when there’s kids involved is usually an overwhelming nightmare. Everyone always hears about the bitter custody battles that take place during divorce proceedings. What most people don’t hear about is how some people avoid going through it. The better solution is to create your own child custody agreement with your ex. Here are three reasons why coming up with a mutual child custody agreement is a good idea.
1. You can both avoid costly legal battles.
A long, drawn out court battle for child custody is very costly. Not only do you have to pay for your attorney’s legal fees, but you also have to pay for court costs and fees associated with filing documents. The cheaper solution is to sit down with a mediator and come up with your own child custody agreement. Sure, you will have to pay for the mediator’s services, but it is not likely to be as much as you would have to pay your attorneys and the court system if you had battled it out before a judge.
2. You can make an agreement that you both can live with.
When you take a child custody case to court, the judge is not likely to take both parent’s needs into account. They will usually award physical custody to one parent, while allowing the other to have short visitations every weekend or so. In today’s world, that’s just no longer the best solution. Instead of allowing a judge to tell you and your ex when you will each have the kids, you need to tell each other what works best for you. The mediator will then step in to help you come up with a compromise that you both can live with.
3. You can opt to change the agreement whenever you want without the need to go to court.
While drafting the child custody agreement, you should make sure there is a stipulation that you will both meet with a mediator again to reassess the situation whenever one of you makes the request. As life goes on, things change and what works for both of you today might not work in two years. For that reason, it is a good idea to sit down with a mediator again, whenever you feel it is necessary, to make sure the agreement is still working for everyone.
If you went through the court system for your child custody agreement, you wouldn’t be able to change the agreement so easily. Instead, you would have to see your family lawyer and have a motion filed in the court for another child custody hearing. So, once more you would have to go through a lengthy court battle that would cost you a lot of money.